When a woman loves a man properly, she will first know her worth. In knowing her worth, she will only accept men into her life that compliment the life she leads. In the life she leads, everything will point back to what she really wants. Is it of God or is it of the enemy?
Similar to when a man loves a woman, a woman must first love God. But what I’ve encountered and heard is that many are afraid of loving…again. “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love,” 1 John 4:18, KJV. Going back to that place before the hurt, before the first love, where did the expectation lie? It was pure, it was innocent, and it was fearless.
When a woman loves a man, she will respect him as a man. She will not degrade him or make him feel “less of a man.” She will encourage him, lift him up, and most of all pray for him. Sure there are areas where we’re all weak, but that tells us what we need most. It is not the tearing down with words and definitely not with actions. A man needs to be built up and assured that the woman he is with has his back.
How can a woman have a man’s back still behaving like a little girl, stated more biblically, as a child? Have we not studied the 31st chapter of Proverbs? What is the definition of a Godly woman? Quoted below are notes directly from the Amplified Bible expounding on this chapter. It is insightful and thought provoking beginning from the 10th verse.
“It is most unfortunate that this description of God's ideal woman is usually confined in readers' minds merely to its literal sense--her ability as a homemaker, as in the picture of Martha of Bethany in Luke 10:38-42. But it is obvious that far more than that is meant. When the summary of what makes her value "far above rubies" is given (in Prov. 31:30), it is her spiritual life only that is mentioned. One can almost hear the voice of Jesus saying, "Mary has chosen the good portion... which shall not be taken away from her" (Luke 10:42).
Proverbs 31:29 "Many daughters have done... nobly and well... but you excel them all." What a glowing description here recorded of this woman in private life, this "capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman" of Prov. 31! It means she had done more than Miriam, the one who led a nation's women in praise to God (Exod. 15:20, 21); Deborah, the patriotic military advisor (Judg. 4:4-10); Ruth, the woman of constancy (Ruth 1:16); Hannah, the ideal mother (I Sam. 1:20; 2:19); the Shunammite, the hospitable woman (II Kings 4:8-10); Huldah, the woman who revealed God's secret message to national leaders (II Kings 22:14); and even more than Queen Esther, the woman who risked sacrificing her life for her people (Esth. 4:16). In what way did she "excel them all"? In her spiritual and practical devotion to God, which permeated every area and relationship of her life. All seven of the Christian virtues (II Pet. 1:5) are there, like colored threads in a tapestry. Her secret, which is open to everyone, is the Holy Spirit's climax to the story, and to this book. In Prov. 31:30, it becomes clear that the "reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord," which is "the beginning (the chief and choice part) of Wisdom" (Prov. 9:10), is put forth as the true foundation for a life which is valued by God and her husband as "far above rubies or pearls" (Prov. 31:10).”
When a woman loves a man, she will have knowledge of who she is in God’s eyes and in turn that man will know that she is indeed a woman who will honor him all the days of her life.
Additional Reference: 1 Corinthians 13